Monthly Archives: June 2005

Sad

I took this photo two years ago in the Mid-Hills Campground in the Mojave National Preserve.

This week, the campground — and more importantly, the lush pinyon-juniper forest that surrounded it — was damaged by fire. I don’t yet know the extent of the damage.

The book demands I head down there in a few weeks, to see what there is to report. Local anti-environmentalists are already complaining that the Park Service is to blame, for removing cattle from the park. As if cattle weren’t to large degree responsible for the influx of invasive grasses that fed this fire. As if the Park Service was responsible for the hundred-year rain this winter, that fed the grasses.

I console myself that the Joshua trees at Cima Dome, the centerpiece of my book, weren’t hit. But fire season isn’t over yet.

Fire season hasn’t even started yet. This could get ugly.

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The boys at home, alone

Becky left for a week away today. She’s heading for Las Vegas for a friend’s wedding.

I got home, did a few chores, posted an incendiary blog entry, walked Zeke down to the park. It was a lovely, leisurely walk. We stood while toddlers ran up to pet him clumsily, their tolerant parents looking on. Zeke couldn’t wait to get away from the two-legged terrors. We walked slowly up the hill again.

Zeke was poky — he’s tired at the end of the day — and I stood, watching the wind in the tops of the eucalyptus trees. Zeke sniffed around the base of a retaining wall. I watched the trees some more.

It occurred to me that this walk felt different from the last few. I’d felt a mild hurry to get back to the house before. Nothing there to hurry back to tonight.

Sixteen years with her, and my step still quickens when I’m walking toward her.

Not that the fascists are ramping up their rhetoric or anything

Sasha at Left in SF took the photo at left — of a sticker affixed to a parked SUV —  in Crissy Field. Which is in San Francisco. Photo taken on Gay Pride Weekend.

But of course we need to be circumspect and polite and obsequious when we talk about politics. How horrible it was that Dick Durbin compared torturers to Nazis. We really owe the conservatives an apology for that one. Let’s just keep apologizing right up until they load us onto the cattle cars.

I wonder how one could find out who belongs to a black Nissan XTerra, California license plate 4VYX168?

Via Orcinus, whose post on this you simply must read.

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Letting things go

A year ago this weekend my grandmother died.

(Imagine a little virtual yahrzeit candle here. Thanks. I miss her.)

A year ago this weekend I also bought a new computer, a Macintosh G5, and I spent the rest of the day setting it up (which took oh, maybe ten minutes ) and then playing with it. I was in the habit of having a drink or two when doing long computer projects, and I poured myself a wee dram of Lagavulin. By the time night rolled around I was stinking drunk.

It was not the Lagavulin’s fault. I blame the two or three martinis and the two three four fingers of 151-proof handmade bourbon that landed on top of it. Becky was furious. The hangover lasted until mid-week. I haven’t had any alcohol since.

My decision to stop drinking had been building for a while. During much of the 1990s, especially when I was working at Terrain and struggling with QuarkXpress and Photoshop on a Quadra 610 until two each morning, I would drink four or six beers in a typical night to take the edge off the six cups of coffee I’d needed to drink to wake me after having four or six beers while working the night before. I cut back on the drinking quite a number of times.

Am I an alcoholic? I honestly don’t know. Someone close to me once said that if I could go into a bar, have one beer, and leave, that I wasn’t. She’s in AA, and is for that and other reasons unlikely to mince words to protect my feelings on the subject. But I wonder. If I’d been a hopeless drunk, the kind where one drink inevitably leads to a binge, I’d have quit a long time ago. But I’m that high-functioning kind of problem drinker. I can go weeks without drinking, and months nursing a nightly shot of scotch for an hour watching the West Wing, and then every so often after several months of moderation, I act out my own little After-School Special. 

And I got to the point where the benefit wasn’t worth the cost. It was an easy decision to make. I haven’t regretted it for a minute, other than during a hike with Matthew when he mentioned drinking Scotch and I had a sudden fond memory of the taste of Islay. Oh, and the stray wistful thoughts of India Pale Ale. I suppose that’s a victory of sorts: I miss the taste, but I can’t imagine that taste without the deadening effects of alcohol, which memory kills the desire but quick.

I gave up smoking pot at age 17: any drug that accentuated feelings of hunger and paranoia was, in those days, not precisely what I needed. (My brother and I reminisced a couple years ago about using beer as a source of survival calories back then.) On my twentieth birthday, as I stood outside a nice vegetarian restaurant letting my food get cold so that I could stand in the snow and suck on a Marlboro, I decided I was being stupid. I don’t remember the next week at all clearly, but that was the last cigarette I ever smoked.

Wait a minute. Why was I eating alone on my birthday? No wonder I left Buffalo. Stinking unfriendly rat trap of a city.

Anyway, I kicked the smoking monkey off my back at 20, off and the alcohol monkey at 44, and now the next monkey looms.

There is a drug I have been taking since I was 13, consuming unhealthy doses of it almost every single day. I have spent more money on this drug than on any other, even with ten years of a six-pack-a-day habit under my belt, or more properly hanging over it.

This next drug has affected my health, my work life, my writing productivity, and my relationships. It’s the strongest addiction I’ve ever faced, and I’m saying that as someone who’s been through morphine withdrawal. I’ve set aside some time in my life to go through what will likely be rather intense discomfort as I go through withdrawal.

On July 15, I will be giving up coffee.

I’ve been thinking about it for a few weeks now. Made a decision last week. And yesterday clinched it. I had the temerity to sleep in until 7:30 in the morning. The coffee monkey expects to have drunk two double espressos by then. I could not shake the headache for the rest of the day.

On July 15, the coffee monkey gets the spanking of its life.

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A pointer

I’ve started a Flickr account. I just uploaded a few garden photos I took this morning. There are a few older shots there as well.